My point of view

What I've learned today and experienced are very important to me.

I hope I can circumvent being a negative thinker again..

During my almost seven years working in Ibank, Ive learned that it is important not to dwell with people who says negative things about someone, for the negative idea or thoughts you will hear will stay in your mind subconsciously. It will only complicate your fair views about something, about life about anything.

Minsan kasi tayo, (madalas) pag may nadinig tayo na bad comments about a person, nagdadagdag din tayo ng experience about that issue. Na minsan kahit hindi naman ganon kalalim, dahil sa nadinig natin lalo tuloy tayo nagkaroon ng conclusion na masama siya or hindi siya nakakaunawa sa atin..o kaya naman kung ala tayong karanasan sa nasabing usapan, ung views natin toward that person nagiging ganun din sa may sama ng loob.

Di konaman sinasabi na iwasan o kaya naman hindi pakinggan ung naglalabas ng sama ng loob, sakin lang sana matutunan natin na maging fair sa pagbigay ng opinyon. Remember we, all are imperfect, lahat tayo may differences, bigyan din natin ng benefit of the doubt ung bawat panig. dont hear and decide for once side only.
much better, wag na tayo makisali sa usapan and just stay in the middle. Be fair and act as a moderator. Just like Jesus did to us.

Ako kasi sana maalala ko palagi ung experience ko sa Ibank na although my friends there are really good friends, meron silang sentiments na inadpot ko din, pinalalim ko ung naiisip ko at narinig na bad views and comments sa mga superiors ko..in the long run , naapektuhan ung working capacity ko, na supress ung career growth ko at bumaba ung self appreciation ko sa sarili at sa kapwa ko..

I remember My Manager's email reminder:

1. Avoid whiners like a plague. Whiners are out there to get others to join their pack. Whiners and complainers thrive on the "pack mentality." They get their strength from numbers. Through their whining and complaining, they intend to get others on their side, join their pack, and increase their strength. If they invite you to join them for lunch or snacks, politely turn down their invitations. If they strike a conversation about something negative at work, be diplomatic in saying that you can't converse as you are completing something important. If they ask you for a social drink or two, by all means decline. A whiner is like a drunk who wants others to also get drunk.

2. Avoid the temptation. When someone starts a gossip or derogatory story about someone in the office, there is great temptation to listen. The moment you tune in to a negative conversation, it will be very easy for you to get sucked into the negative energy that pervades this kind of conversation. You can be asked to comment or add your own negative observations. If you contradict a negative story, you're the enemy of the pack. If you agree or if you just even continue to tune in, you will soon become part of the pack.

(Minsan mahirap sakin to, kasi likas akong tsismosa at pakialamera..hehe)

Whenever you sense that someone starts gathering a pack of negative people, slowly veer away. Run if you must, but by all means resist the "pack mentality" that can easily transform you from a well-meaning individual to one among the pack of jackals.

3. Look for positive role models. If you want to succeed at work, seek out positive role models. Ask around and observe until you see the successful ones or the ones who exude a positive outlook, positive attitude, or positive impact and who dish out a remarkable performance. Find a way to hang out with them. Join them at the cafeteria or meetings and introduce yourself, ask questions and find out what make them tick. Spend more time with this type of people.

(I always think of what alvin would do if he was in this situation like this..sigurado he will think it thoroughly, ponder all points before coming to a conclusion)

If this is too forward for you at this early stage of your career, just watch and observe what they do and learn the positive things from them. Master their best practices and adopt those that can help you do a good job.

(I've learned that its good to be an observer..)

Success or failure is contagious. Be careful whom you associate with. Someone said that what you will be in five years will depend on the books you read and the people you associate with. Success in careers depends largely on two things-information and relationships. He who is able to master these things will have success at his fingertips.

The good book says, "Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are." If you want to be successful, hang out with successful people. If you want to end up being an incessant whiner or chronic complainer, go with the pack of jackals. Why? The positive or the negative rubs off-success or failure is contagious. Take your pick.

Early in your career, and early in the relationships you will establish as you work your way through the organizational maze, be constantly aware of the choices you are making. If you want to succeed, avoid the negative people around you. If you want to fail, you don't have to do anything-all the negatives will simply gravitate toward you.